In a perfect world we'll all be happy, we'll all get along, live harmoniously and have everything that we want out of life.  That would be a perfect world.  The world we live in seems to be full of people who are selfish, indulgent, conniving and won't stop at anything to get what they want regardless of who they hurt along the way.  It seems that over time we as people have lost sight of the bigger picture; it's no longer about us, it's all about me.  We want things, we get things and that seems to be the driving factor behind what most of us think life is about.  How are we getting these things?  Who are we hurting in the process?  The more I think I can't help but wonder; In a society that tells us that we can get what we want, are we becoming more self obsessed and forgetting what really matters?

Wikipedia states that "a want is something desired having to do with , distinct from a need. It's said that we have unlimited wants, but limited supplied resources. Thus, we can't have everything we want and must look for the best alternatives".  I remember being a little kid where all I wanted was some lollies, McDonalds or something like that because the simple things made me happy.  As I have gotten older, the wants have become a little more expensive and a little harder to get.  I wonder why things have changed so much as the years have passed and why these wants keep getting bigger and more extravagant.  What are the reasons behind wanting that really hot car?  Do I want it so I can look different towards other people? Do I want it because others don't have it?  When I was a kid, lollies and McDonalds made me happy, but what comes to mind is that back then, I couldn't afford it myself.  I had to rely on my parents to get it for me.  Behind this want for Cars, McDonalds, Televisions and extravagance, are we really wanting this because at the time they were just out of our reach?

Most people I know want to have the best career that they can have, working their way up the corporate ladder, studying to be the best in their chosen field which begs the question; when it comes to your career, is all fair in getting to the top?  I've seen ruthless people in my time, doing whatever it takes to make it to the top and in the end don't really care about those around them as long as they get where they want to be.  Who is to say they're doing something wrong working this way?  We're told growing up that we can be the best, in a lot of cases we're told we already are but where do we draw the line? When do we take a step back and realise that there is more to life than getting everything we want when you may not have anyone to share it with?  Don't you think that having special people around you to help enjoy the fruits of your labour would be just that much sweeter?

Wanting different things should make us happy when we get them, but it's amazing how it just makes us want more.  What other people have makes us change our wants to make us appear 'better' than them, a bigger TV, a faster car, nicer shoes or that one of a kind one of a kind Louis Vuitton satchel bag (ok, that's me) to set us apart from the rest.  We are conditioned to think that by getting these things will make us better but the sheer desire to have these things in some cases outweighs common sense and decency where people do stupid things to prove that they can have them.  People steal, people cheat and people lie, just to get what they want and really in the end, is it worth it?  What happened to being happy with what you have in life and just living without the stress, pain and self doubt?

In love we all have wants, most of which we try to pass off as needs which somehow allows us to justify actions to get things that we can't have.  To be in love is something special, you have that emotional connection with someone who makes you feel complete, where you well up just thinking about that person and everything is just perfect.  Ok you may have guessed that this is what I know it to be like but over the years it's been interesting to see couples in 'love' and the different ways they seem to build their relationship.  My understanding of a relationship is where two people see something in each other that makes them want to know more, becoming more emotionally connected and fall in love with that person as a whole, with all their faults, flaws and features.  Ask yourself, what do you understand a relationship to be?

What I have seen is that people seem to think that not even if they're in a relationship, if they can't get something they want from that person they love, they should be able to go elsewhere to get it.  What ever happened to compromise, understanding and truly being with one person?  How can we even fathom going outside our relationship just to fulfil a want when you have something that not everyone in this life will get to have?  Have we become so selfish and self-obsessed that we have lost sight of the bigger picture and what we REALLY want out of life?  Have was started to take for granted everything that we really want for those things that we can't have?  Do we have to lose those things we really need just to understand how important they really are?

There are so many things in this life that we want, some more than others and the way in which we get them will differ.  What we need to realise is that some wants should really just stay that way, as wants, because what is the point of risking everything to fulfil something so insignificant and really doesn't mean that much in the bigger picture?  What have we become where we don't really care about who we affect in our pursuit for 'true happiness?'  There are so many other things in life that can make us happy without hurting others.  Is it really true that you don't know what you have got until it's gone and when it comes down to it, really worth everything?  The actual question to ask then is, will it really make you happy?