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3月25日 Meeting...There
are so many different types of "Meetings" that we have within our
lives, being that of new people, boardroom meetings and even club
meetings, all of which are relationship building in order to find some
common ground between the parties. Meetings can be of chance,
organised and even forced, where people use their life skills to come
across as the best that they possibly can be. I can't help but wonder;
when we meet with people do we already have a subconscious reason in
order to take it further? Furthermore, do we approach all these
meetings in the same way no matter what the circumstances? In a boardroom we put ourselves out there, somewhat selling ourselves to make people think that we are the best, have the greatest ideas and even show what we are made of. People in suits and the facade of professionalism asserting their point of view with examples to back up their position. In a personal meeting, we 'sell' ourselves to an extent to impress the person we are dealing with, hoping in all honesty that they believe what we are saying backed up with life experiences. Is it really that different? Is it more the content of what we are saying or mainly in the delivery? I happened to meet someone over the last couple of weeks. We are dating which is awesome, taking it slow which believe me has got me excited about what is to come and I look forward to finding more and more about him. After 2 weeks of great dates, Wikkid_Kiwi and I have traded war stories, life history and experiences which have got us to where we are at this point in our lives. I have to say I am beginning to quite like him and I have my fingers crossed that we will in the end decide to take that next step. I find it interesting that as soon as I have stopped 'looking' for it, I have managed to meet a person that I really get along with on such an intellectual level (although I do still have my ditzy moments) paired with finding him incredibly attractive. Watch this space people! After an impromptu meeting with my team leader at work, it was brought to my attention that people could see that I didn't enjoy my job anymore. Supposedly I had become monosyllabic, monotone and sounded like I would start hacking at peoples necks with a spoon. A lovely 'truth' session allowed me to voice my concerns along with taking some constructive criticism. I came out of it feeling rather invigorated, knowing that they were going to listen to me and also to find out that they have always had something more in store for me. I just had to be able to back up everything they thought with evidence (73 contracts in a week definately got a smile, along with 4 bottles of wine and 1L of Jim Beam!) I wonder what was so different in my approach to these two drastically contrasting meetings? I still put myself out there, put my story across with confidence in the hope that they will accept that and allow us to continue. My own personality was present in both meetings and I was very true to myself. Both of them were quite informal and relaxed which makes me think that there had to be more to it. Now I begin to wonder whether my stance is what was different within each meeting. In which meeting did I have more to lose? I could in the end have lost my job if I didn't start performing and doing what I get paid to do. With Wikkid_Kiwi I wasn't sure of what the outcome was going to be, there were two different endings before the rolling credits. We could have stopped after one date, or booked the second one before the first had finished. Maybe this unknown outcome and the "what have I got to lose" attitude subconsciously allowed me to relax more and really be myself? Since I have started writing this piece I have come to realise that when we meet with people, we always will have to ask ourselves what would we lose if the interaction didn't go according to plan. Is it something that would have a huge impact on our lives? Or is it something that will be noticed but without the drama and complication? Ask yourself whether you've not either met or have gone into a meeting and realise you could have been completely different. Have you regretted anything from those? I think from now on I'll do what I can to not take some things too seriously, I maybe surprised with the outcome. Mik  3月12日 Changes...Change
is inevitable. One can avoid it for quite sometime, run away from it
and even defy it. We ask ourselves why things have to change so much
and so frequently, it's as if we finally settle ourselves and then
everything gets knocked askew and we are stuck putting the pieces back
together again. Change can be good or bad; it can be chosen or thrust
upon us. Life throws many curve balls and if we are lucky enough to
avoid being hit in the balls we can consider ourselves lucky and the
change is for the good. The more I think about change the more I can't
help but wonder; Is change good or bad based on the way we look at it
and all things considered, really that scary? |
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